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Mi dispiace, non posso venire.
I'm sorry, I can't come.
Use this as a basic, polite way to cancel any plan. It works in both formal and informal contexts and is suitable when you don't want to give many details.
Ho un imprevisto.
Something unexpected has come up.
Use when you need to cancel but don't want to (or can't) explain the specific reason. It's accepted in both work and personal contexts as a vague but valid excuse.
Non mi sento bene, devo annullare.
I don't feel well, I need to cancel.
Use when you are genuinely unwell or when you need a believable, sympathetic reason to cancel plans with friends or family. Less appropriate in formal professional settings.
Sono bloccato/a al lavoro.
I'm stuck at work.
Use with friends and family when work obligations prevent you from keeping plans. In Italy, being kept late by your boss is widely sympathised with.
Possiamo rimandare a un'altra volta?
Can we postpone to another time?
Use when you want to cancel but show that you still want to see the person — just not today. This phrase softens a cancellation by keeping the relationship open.
Mi sono dimenticato/a completamente!
I completely forgot!
Use with close friends when you genuinely forgot about plans. Honesty is appreciated among friends in Italy, though this works better with familiars than with acquaintances.
Devo restare con la famiglia.
I need to stay with my family.
Use when family obligations take priority. In Italy, this reason is deeply respected — family always comes first and no one will question it.
Non ce la faccio stasera.
I can't manage it tonight.
Use with friends when you are too tired, overwhelmed, or simply not in the mood. It implies emotional or physical exhaustion rather than a practical conflict.
C'è stato un problema.
There's been a problem.
Use when something has genuinely gone wrong and you need to cancel urgently. This phrase signals seriousness without going into detail and works in any context.
Ho perso il treno.
I missed the train.
Use in cities reliant on public transport (Rome, Milan, Naples, Florence) where missing a train or tram is a completely credible and common reason to cancel or be late.
Mi sono completamente dimenticato/a dell'appuntamento.
I completely forgot about the appointment.
Use when you forgot a scheduled meeting or appointment. More formal than forgetting plans with friends — suitable for doctors, hairdressers, or casual professional meetings.
Devo portare i bambini da qualche parte.
I have to take the kids somewhere.
Use among parents when childcare conflicts with plans. In Italy, this is an immediately understood and respected reason — children's needs override social plans without question.
Ho troppo da fare oggi.
I have too much to do today.
Use when your schedule is genuinely overloaded. Simple and direct — works best with close friends who will understand without needing details.
Scusa il ritardo nella risposta, ma non posso venire.
Sorry for the late reply, but I can't come.
Use when you have delayed responding to a message about plans and are now cancelling. Acknowledging the delayed reply shows self-awareness and respect.
Devo andare dal medico.
I have to go to the doctor.
Use for cancelling due to a medical appointment. In Italy, health is taken very seriously and any medical reason generates immediate understanding and concern.
Mi fermo a casa questo fine settimana.
I'm staying home this weekend.
Use when you want to cancel weekend plans without giving a specific reason — you simply need rest or alone time. This has become more acceptable in Italy with younger generations.
Ho gli ospiti.
I have guests.
Use when out-of-town relatives or friends are staying with you. In Italian culture, being a host is a primary duty that overrides all other social commitments.
Sono già impegnato/a.
I'm already busy / I already have plans.
Use when declining new plans because you already have other commitments. Direct but not rude — it's a clear statement of fact with no need for elaborate explanation.
Devo restare a casa, vengono gli operai.
I have to stay home, the workmen are coming.
Use when tradespeople (plumber, electrician, builder) are due and you must be home. Very credible in Italy where home maintenance is common and people can't leave workmen unsupervised.
Purtroppo devo lavorare.
Unfortunately I have to work.
Use when work conflicts with social plans. Adding 'purtroppo' (unfortunately) signals that you'd rather be socialising and softens the refusal.
Non mi va.
I'm not up for it.
Use only with very close friends when you simply don't feel like doing something. This is a very honest and somewhat blunt phrase — use it where you have enough trust that no explanation is needed.
Ci siamo sbagliati di giorno!
We got the day wrong!
Use when there's been a genuine misunderstanding about which day plans were made for. The plural 'ci siamo' shares the blame between both parties, which is more diplomatic than blaming only one person.
Devo stare a casa, non c'è nessuno con il cane.
I have to stay home, there's nobody with the dog.
Use among pet owners — in Italy, pet ownership (especially dogs) is very common and responsibilities are taken seriously. Fellow dog owners will immediately understand.
Ho un mal di testa terribile.
I have a terrible headache.
Use when a headache is genuinely preventing you from going out. This is one of the most common and sympathised physical complaints in Italy.
Non avevo messo in conto che fosse oggi.
I hadn't factored in that it was today.
Use when you made plans but then forgot to account for them when making other arrangements — a more sophisticated expression of having double-booked or forgotten.
Ti mando un messaggio dopo per ridefinire.
I'll message you later to reschedule.
Use to end a cancellation conversation positively by committing to a follow-up. This phrase shows you value the relationship and intend to keep the plans — just not today.
Con questo tempo, preferisco restare a casa.
In this weather, I'd rather stay home.
Use on days of extreme weather — heavy rain, very cold, or oppressive heat. Italians take weather very seriously and cancelling due to bad weather is widely accepted.
Sono fuori città.
I'm out of town.
Use when you are literally not in the city where the plans were made. Simple, factual, and requires no further explanation.
Non ho la macchina disponibile.
I don't have the car available.
Use in areas where a car is needed to reach the venue — common in smaller Italian towns and rural areas where public transport is limited.
Ho già promesso a qualcuno di fare altro.
I've already promised someone I'd do something else.
Use when you made a prior promise to another person that you feel obligated to keep. This phrase emphasises personal integrity and keeping your word, which is highly valued in Italian culture.
Sono esausto/a, ho appena fatto un lungo viaggio.
I'm exhausted, I've just done a long journey.
Use after returning from a long journey, work trip, or holiday. Travel fatigue is universally understood and accepted as a reason to need rest before seeing anyone.
Non mi sento bene, è un momento difficile.
I'm not feeling well, it's a difficult time.
A gentle, vague way to cancel when you are dealing with physical discomfort or emotional difficulty without being specific. Works in all contexts.
Scusa, devo cambiare programma.
Sorry, I need to change plans.
A versatile, neutral phrase for changing or cancelling plans in any context. Less emotionally loaded than other phrases — clear and direct without being cold.
Ho avuto una brutta giornata.
I've had a bad day.
Use with close friends when a difficult day has left you emotionally or physically drained. This honest explanation usually generates empathy rather than disappointment.
Mi faccio sentire io, promesso.
I'll be in touch, I promise.
Use to close a cancellation conversation on a warm note, committing to make contact again soon. This phrase signals the relationship is not damaged — just delayed.
Arriva mia sorella all'improvviso.
My sister is arriving unexpectedly.
Use when a family member arrives unexpectedly and you must be with them. In Italy, unexpected family visits are both common and considered a legitimate reason to drop everything.
Ho un colloquio di lavoro domani, devo prepararmi.
I have a job interview tomorrow, I need to prepare.
Use when a job interview requires preparation and you need to cancel evening plans. This reason generates both understanding and genuine good wishes from Italian friends.
Devo aiutare un amico a traslocare.
I have to help a friend move house.
Use when you have committed to helping a friend move. In Italy, helping friends move is a serious social obligation — essentially compulsory among close friends.
Devo fare la spesa e cucinare.
I need to do the shopping and cook.
Use with close friends when domestic tasks genuinely take priority. In Italian culture, food shopping and cooking are daily rituals taken seriously — not dismissed as trivial.
Sono in viaggio, non arrivo in tempo.
I'm travelling, I won't make it on time.
Use when you are literally in transit and will not arrive on time for the plans. This is a factual, geographic impossibility — no one can argue with it.
Sono stato/a trattenuto/a.
I was held up.
Use in formal or semi-formal contexts — with colleagues, acquaintances, or in professional social settings. It's vague but dignified, explaining delay without detail.
Era il compleanno di mia nonna, non potevo non andare.
It was my grandmother's birthday, I couldn't not go.
Use when explaining why you cancelled plans — retrospectively, after the fact. The double negative 'non potevo non andare' (I couldn't not go) is emphatic and very Italian.
Ho avuto un guasto alla macchina.
My car broke down.
Use when your car has broken down and prevented you from getting to your destination. Completely credible and generates immediate practical concern rather than social awkwardness.
Ho la riunione di condominio.
I have the building residents' meeting.
Use among adults who live in apartment buildings (the majority of Italian urban dwellers). The 'riunione di condominio' is a compulsory, often dreaded social obligation.
Mi si è scaricato il telefono.
My phone died / ran out of battery.
Use to explain why you didn't reply to messages, missed calls, or couldn't communicate before the plans. A modern, universally understood explanation.
Sono a dieta, preferisco non venire alla cena.
I'm on a diet, I'd prefer not to come to dinner.
Use specifically for food-related social events when dieting. In Italy this will generate debate — Italians may try to convince you to come anyway and eat little, so be prepared.
Rimandare è la cosa migliore, ci vediamo domani?
Postponing is the best thing, shall we meet tomorrow?
Use when you want to cancel but immediately propose the very next day — showing genuine eagerness to see the person, just not today.
Devo fare le faccende domestiche.
I need to do the household chores.
Use with very close friends when housework genuinely takes priority. This is an honest, humble reason — Italians will understand but may tease you.
Avevo bisogno di riposare, ti chiedo scusa.
I needed to rest, I apologise to you.
Use as a retrospective apology — after the fact — when you cancelled without much explanation and now want to properly apologise and explain. Shows maturity and emotional intelligence.
C'è stata un'emergenza.
There was an emergency.
Use when something genuinely urgent happened that made keeping your plans impossible. The word 'emergenza' signals seriousness and immediately suspends any disappointment the other person feels.
Non sapevo che fosse così lontano.
I didn't know it was so far.
Use when the distance or travel time to reach a location makes attending impractical. More useful for events in unfamiliar locations or when transport is limited.
Ti richiamo appena posso.
I'll call you back as soon as I can.
Use when you need to end a conversation quickly to deal with something urgent, promising to call back with a full explanation or to reschedule.
Mi sono addormentato/a sul divano.
I fell asleep on the sofa.
Use with very close friends after missing plans due to accidentally falling asleep. This only works with people who know you well — it's disarmingly honest and usually generates laughter rather than anger.