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Sei sposato/a o fidanzato/a?

Are you married or in a relationship?

Pronunciation

'Fidanzato' = fee-dan-ZAH-toh. The 'z' sounds like 'ts'. Both words follow the same -o/-a gender pattern.

When to use it

Ask only after a comfortable rapport has been established — not as a first question. More appropriate in social settings than professional ones. Read body language carefully before asking.

What it means

'Sposato/a' = married; 'fidanzato/a' = engaged or in a serious relationship. In Italian, 'fidanzato/a' is broader than the English 'fiancé' — it covers any committed partner. The adjective must agree with the subject's gender.

Variations

Hai un compagno/una compagna?

Do you have a partner?

'Compagno/compagna' is the modern neutral term for partner — avoids assumptions about marriage.

Stai con qualcuno?

Are you seeing someone?

Very colloquial — 'stare con qualcuno' is the casual expression for dating.

Sei single?

Are you single?

Direct — borrowed from English, widely understood and used.

Mini Dialogue

— Sei sposato o fidanzato? — Sono fidanzato da tre anni. E tu? — Io sono single da qualche mese. — Capisco. Come stai?

— Are you married or in a relationship? — I've been in a relationship for three years. And you? — I've been single for a few months. — I understand. How are you doing?

Cultural Note

Italians may ask this question relatively early in social conversations — it's seen as getting to know someone, not prying. Long-term cohabitation without marriage is increasingly common, especially in northern Italy.